Allow me to intervene in my thread if I may...
Thank you both for your opinions. Both have given me a push on where I need to go next.
Sleeper, I think what you said about taking the uroxatral and valium are valid as advised by my urologist, and I am going to try them again with the addition of a stool softener to see if I can achieve tolerable results and then discuss with my urologist any alternatives if I can't. I don't feel that this alone is going to be a long term help, but I think as an addition to compliment the PT, it could be a valuable. As for the biofeedback, that is something that would be included in my PT sessions as she is who helped me through my previous sessions.
Sickof, I certainly agree after everything that I've read that PT seems to be the best way of tackling this as conventional therapy which is why I posted this in the first place. After my biofeedback sessions with my PT, and discussing my symptoms with her, she definitely feels I need some internal work which I agree is most likely the case.
I feel my best course is to have PT, while taking the valium and xatral for maximum benefits, but please, answer me this....if all I can afford is twice a month for the time being, is this going to be helpful, or just money waisted?